February 25, 2011

Like Peas & Carrots.

Thanks to those who commented on my blog yesterday about Tess' eating preferences. I got lots of ideas from you guys -- namely to keep it simple and to offer her things that she can feed herself -- and things went loads better today. I steamed some carrots and green beans and cut them up and she went to town feeding herself for both lunch and dinner. (And then, of course, she was rewarded with a piece of American cheese.) I think she is just over having mama feed her stuff. She wants to do it All By Herself. Plus, she just thought beets were gross.

There will doubtless be plenty of food challenges ahead but today felt like a small victory. I can be pretty hard on myself when it comes to mothering. And I don't really like asking other mothers for help because I sometimes feel criticized by all the well-meaning advice. Also, I tend to want to figure it out All By Myself. But if I just listen to others and tell the voices in my head to take a smoke break -- and realize this isn't all about me, but it's about Tess, too -- then I can learn a lot.



3 comments:

  1. letting them feed themselves is definitely key. Lily won't even eat soup or yogurt anymore because i still have to help when it comes to the spoon.

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  2. Oh, I just found your blog and I love it so much! I have a biracial baby boy, and it's great to find blogs like yours!

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  3. Amen, sister. We can all be so critical --of ourselves--but we are all going through the same things so any and all of the advice we can share is so important! I am so glad to hear this. Yay Tessa! And you know I can't agree more: it is totally all about her feeding herself. That is how she will come to enjoy eating, not because of the foods she eats. And it makes sense. They are little people with strong minds and are learning constantly and the last thing they want is to have mom or dad shoveling food into their mouths. Can you blame them? Keep me posted on how it goes ok?

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