July 10, 2011

Indecision & Intuition.

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My next-door neighbor and I have a pretty sweet arrangement: I'll collect her mail while she's out of town if she doesn't mind me reading all the magazines that show up in her mailbox. I'm a total magazine freak.

Last night I was just about to settle into bed with her O magazine when I thought to text her my appreciation:

"Your Oprah magazine arrived today. Score!"

She texted right back, "I actually just got home. Can I come get my mail, minus O? :)"

I'm happy she didn't mind me having a sleepover with Oprah because there was a whole segment of articles about intuition and trusting your "gut." My favorite article was by Oprah's resident life coach, Martha Beck.

If Martha Beck were a preacher, I would stand in her congregation on my tip-toes and say "Amen!" so often that the other parishioners would probably glare at me. I am just really down with what she's saying.

I loved this bit from her article on intuition:

"If you're wondering whether a choice is wise or not, don't search your mind for a rational argument. Instead, hold each option in your attention, then feel its effect on your body and emotions. When something's wrong for you, you'll feel constriction and tightness. The wise choice leads to feelings of  liberation, even exhilaration."

This was helpful because I have a horrible time making up my mind about things, which I think is the cause of heaps of my insomnia and anxiety. And not being able to make up my mind about things impacts my confidence because I end up feeling like I don't know who I really am. I can't hear my voice.  I am a stranger inside a body that looks vaguely familiar in the mirror.

A girlfriend and I were talking this week about how hard it is to make a decision, and I love what she said, which is that if she doesn't know what to do in a certain situation, she thinks the best thing to do is to do nothing. To wait quietly for the right answer.

This waiting quietly is the hard part for me. Unless I'm asleep, I'm always moving. I have a hard time even watching television. I feel like I need to be making something or cleaning something or returning an email. I'll run a hot bath, only to soak in it for a minute or so before I pull the stopper. These days I'm trying to do more of that "sleep when the baby sleeps" thing. But I need more than just more sleep. The thing I need to do is to be quiet and wait. I also need this dress, but we can talk about that another day.

4 comments:

  1. hee-hee. I love this post because I am exactly the same way. I like your friend's advice too. Waiting is hard, esp. when you are like us. I found solace in, of all things, a U2 lyric the other day: "What you don't have, you don't need it now." Not sure it's the same as not making up your mind, but it helps with the endless worrying.

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  2. i don't know Martha Beck but i think i should check into her. i'm a bit like you as well. not in the sense that i can't sit still but in the sense that i have a hard time making decisions and listening to my inner voice.
    and yes, the dress is fab and you NEED it!

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  3. I'm exactly the same way and it drives me crazy! But then again, I know that being that way is what drives me to do all that I do and that I wouldn't be me without all of that craziness! ;)

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  4. I'm definitely like you when it comes to "waiting quietly." I always feel the need to be doing something. I hardly ever just sit back and relax.

    btw, I may actually pick up an issue of O magazine now. :D

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