As Nekos and I talk about making another baby one of these days, I'm trying to figure out what makes me feel ready for that all of a sudden, when a few months ago I would have told you no, hell no. Besides that I want to continue to build our family and our future and want the next baby to be somewhat near in age to Tessa and all that blahblahblah, it's that I'm scared. I'm scared because Tessa is getting older, and I'll miss having her there on my hip. She still loves to be carried around most of the time (all 27 lbs. of her), and I still love it, even though my arms ache and I get sweaty and disheveled. I honestly can't tell you how much I love having her ear right there to whisper "I love you" into, how much I love having that velvet cheek to gobble on until she giggles. And when she tucks her head under my chin and rests it there, as though she is weary of this world? Oh Lord. It's truly the best. But I know one day soon she'll be too heavy and too willful to carry around, and my arms will be empty most of the time.
Speaking of empty arms, I ran into a woman the other day who I'm not a big fan of. She's certainly no fan of mine either. But before I knew what I was doing I smiled and waved at her. Afterwards, I tried to decide what had momentarily cracked my cold reserve toward her—other than, you know, human decency or the element of surprise. Later that day I figured it out: She didn't have her baby with her. Because our differences lie in the way we parent, I'd come to interpret her child on her hip as a sort of weapon. Whenever she carried her kid around, she looked to me to be armed, her ammunition within reach. Without the baby, she was just a woman.
Without Tess on my hip, I am just a woman, too. A woman who is not yet ready to also be the mother of a child who no longer needs carrying around.
Great thoughts.... it's something that bonds all of us as mothers. A special sign that we know what each other are going through.
ReplyDeleteHeard a great quote this morning in regards to raising little ones...
"The days are long but the years are short."
It's so very true...
Emily, great thoughts. You're absolutely right.
ReplyDeleteoh boy... where can i start? funnily enough, one of my self posts tomorrow will be with a baby on my hip. no better feeling.
ReplyDeleteWill and i have also been talking about having another baby. i'm not getting any younger but i tell you that i don't feel the same magical feeling i did when we were wishing for Lily. and for that, i feel bad and guilty.
stumbled upon your blog today and i just loved this post! beautifully written!
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